The Kitchen Can Wait

I am the worst for pushing aside my children so that I can get a task done. I feel guilty to be in my pyjamas at 9am (not to mention noon). I have high expectations on myself as an at-home mama.

Being 8+ months pregnant with a 2 & 4 year old does come with challenges. I’m sure I say this every pregnancy, but, ” I don’t think that I have ever been this tired!” And it’s only going to get worse – some things will be better, like having a cute newborn to snuggle, but the sleeplessness will not be better for a while.

So, how can you cope with times of excessive exhaustion or transitions in life? There are a few key things I’ve been learning and would like to share

Change your expectations:
Don’t mistaken this with lowering your expectations, that’s very different. Life is in transition and now is not the time for change or big projects. I often ask myself, “is this a reasonable request?” I have many projects that I feel should be done before the babies due date but I have to decide what is realistic. 4 sewing projects, organizing 3 main rooms of the house, and a freezer-meal marathon? Probably not.

Define daily goals:
Every day is different. Some days I have lots of energy and other days not so much. There are key things that HAVE to be accomplished. Feeding kids is #1. Getting dressed is optional. I like to have a tidy home when I go to bed to start the next day with a clean slate – that could be as easy as loading and running the dishwasher and doing a pick-up of things around the house. I am ok if I don’t wipe the table or sweep the floor.

Don’t make life harder than it has to be:
Remember KISS: keep it simple stupid (some, who are more refined than I, use sweetheart as the last “s”. I like the directness of the current statement). Even in good times we can overwhelm ourselves with high expectations. There is life after housework and meal planning. Remember to enjoy it!

Soon this baby will be here, we will be back to a regular running day, and life goes on. For right now I will focus on what needs focus and forget the rest.

I’ve been trying to focus my time on the kids these days. Soon a new baby will make them feel pushed aside. Also these are the last days of Oliver being the “baby” of the family so I’m just enjoying my kids.

This has been our week:
Dressing as a superhero

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Playing in the glorious outdoors

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Holding hands while watching a movie

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Baking together (went much better than past experiences)

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Keeping things simple

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Ephesians 4:22-24 says,

“Put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.”

I have recently realized that I am too hard on myself. I have high expectations as a mom, home maker, wife, and just overall. It hit me a few days ago that I need to chill out!

When I shared my ‘epiphany’ with Chris his words were AMEN! I’m sure he’s said these things many times to me but it never sank in.

I’ve decided to do a few things differently to give myself a break:
– Be thankful! I often get bogged down with what I need to buy, budgeting, or what we may need at that time rather than take the time to inventory all that we are blessed with.
– make supper simpler. I don’t need to make a gourmet meal every night. My family is happy just to have food on their plates – well not Natalee, she’s in a new phase of hating anything and everything mommy does.
– sift through my clothing and only keep what I love most and wear often. I don’t need any more decisions in my day than necessary.
– take the time to look at all the things I’ve accomplished in the day rather than focusing on things still to be done.

I have done these things over the past week and what a difference! It’s amazing how fast negative inner-talk can bog you down! This “putting off the old self” stuff is hard work! It takes time. It takes making mistakes and learning from it. I’m thankful to have a God who forgives my selfishness and encourages my progress. I also have a pretty great husband who supports me.

Here’s to continuing in imperfect progress. Cheers!

It’s been a while…

…we have not been great at the updates. Maybe it’s because nothing super exciting has happened. For this blog post I will update you as to what has been going on in the Keezer home. I’m sure you all were worried 😉

Here are 10 random things to update you:

1. We have been busy! Two kids + two jobs + household duties + guests + commitments = one busy household. I love it all and I am trying to learn balance, being intentional and some other words/character qualities (could I be more vague?).

2. Chris has signed up for his gun safety course. The hope is that he’ll be certified and packin’ by next moose season so we can fill our freezer. You can’t get any more local and organic than hunting your own moose.

3. We are experimenting with wheat/gluten in our diet again. We know it may not be the best but gluten free wasn’t working the way we had hoped. We were also starting with GAPS but…long story short…it didn’t work out. We are at a place where we are trying to balance nutrition and our budget. At the end of the day food is a means by which we nourish our bodies and we will do the best with what we are given.

4. Our two kids are such a joy! After my miscarriage I have been more thankful for the kids I currently have. I have also realized that having two is a LOT of work! For those that are curious, we don’t have plans for another baby any time soon. We are enjoying where we are right now.

5. We love Summerside! The grass is green and the beach is just down the street. I can tell we will be spending a lot of time outside (and I generally don’t outdoors).

6. Chris & I been going through Dave Ramesey’s Financial Peace course. LOVE IT!

7. Oliver is almost 18 months (on the 29th) and is talking up a storm! the way he says “I do!” makes me laugh. He also loves to read and be outside – he will try to escape if we aren’t watching.

8. Natalee will be four next month. WOW! She is the same as she was last year in a lot of ways. Kid’s don’t change a lot once they get older. She is my challenging child but also a great joy!

9. Chris loves working at Summerside Baptist with Pastor Don and all the other volunteers. He is also an amazing preacher (other say this, not just me)

10. I’ve been continuing with my business with Stella & Dot. It has been GREAT to say the least. I’ve also got one lovely lady on my team. To learn more you can check out http://www.stelladot.com/beckiekeezer OR email me beckiekeezer@me.com. I love to talk about it!

Spring Cleaning: Living Room & Back Hall

So…it’s been a while. But we are back with a fun and exciting (note sarcasm) new theme of blog posts. SPRING CLEANING!!! lol

I found a blog this week (Thank you Rikki) that has a week of focused spring cleaning called Clean Sweep 2012 (http://www.oursimplecountrylife.com/). Since it is supposed to rain all week I will make the most of being indoors. Today I tackled my living room and back hall.

This week my husband (who is a Pastor) preaches. I always find the week before he speaks Satan roaring around our home. Today spring cleaning has helped work out my frustrations. They are not all gone but I have a week of cleaning still to do 🙂

Here are the before photos:

 

 

 

 

And here is after…

I was even able to enjoy the clean, finger print free windows for about 10 minutes after the photos were taken! I’m glad to have these high-tradffic areas clean and I’m looking forward to the rest of the week…stay tuned!